Saudi Woman Is Always Guilty!
Dania Al-Ghalib, Al-Madinah

The Saudi woman is guilty. She is guilty of being born in a male-dominated society. Her fault is that she grows up in a society that stigmatizes her sex as a sin. She is held accountable because society believes she is underaged — even if she is in her 60s — and implements a guardianship system over her as if she were a second-rate citizen. It is very common for a Saudi woman — a widow or a divorcee — to have her young son as her guardian and she needs his written permission to carry out official paperwork. He is in control of her life and her destiny.

The Saudi woman can be blamed for living in a male-dominated society that opposes many rights for women despite the fact that the Prophet (peace be upon him) — the best of all humans — consulted a woman and listened to her advice. The Saudi woman is guilty of living in a society that confuses tradition with Islamic obligations and idolizes what it sees as the latter to the extent that when she wants to discuss or object, she is accused of rebellion. Her fault is that society considers her an item of her guardian’s property. He can do anything he desires with her without asking her opinion or even listening to her.

The Saudi woman is born undesired. Everybody wants a male child rather than a female one. This innocent creature is forcibly taught what is prohibited and shameful before even knowing how to speak. She is guilty if she remains silent and guilty if she talks. She is guilty if she is divorced and guilty if she cleaves to her husband and children when someone tries unjustifiably to destroy her marriage. Her only refuge is prison where she has the right to say no. She has lost all her rights and has fought for one that allows her to live only behind bars. Her sin is that she tried to protect her marriage and family. But traditions and customs challenged and destroyed her attempts.

The Saudi woman is guilty of being raped in darkness or in daylight because her society wants her locked in, producing legal children and never leaving her house unless she is dead and of course accompanied by a guardian. She is guilty when brutal beasts tear her body and soul apart, threatening her with weapons and defamation because society believes she subjected herself to them and she deserves what happens to her.

She is guilty because society prohibits her from driving and forces her to live at the mercy of a foreign driver. He might rape her one day or make money by allowing others to rape her, and then she will be the one who is blamed for having put herself in such position and went out with a driver without her legal guardian.

The Saudi woman is guilty because she is part of her guardian’s property even when he is a criminal, serving time in jail and he marries her off to his colleague in prison who is awaiting execution. Society is aware of this and apparently sees no harm in such. In fact, the community blessed this marriage and arranged for them to be legally alone together. And the woman’s fault is that she is the daughter of a criminal.

The Saudi woman is guilty of being haunted by spinsterhood and not accepting “misyar” and all other types of male-invented marriages. She is also guilty if she accepts being abandoned by her husband when he feels tired and bored with her and wants a new wife. She is guilty if she objects to anything and her legal guardian beats her until he breaks her ribs or permanently disfigures her. His right is to beat her and make her obey and listen, even if that means deforming her physical features as a woman and taking away her beauty.

She is guilty when others confiscate her property or real estate by impersonating her, and her greatest sin is that her identity stems from her guardian. The Saudi woman is always guilty and anyone who thinks of dealing with her humanely is a criminal.

Saudi Arabia added yet another accolade to its freedom of speech record by arresting its first blogger. Fouad Al Farhan, considered by many as being the dean of Saudi bloggers for being among the first to blog in his country using his real name, has been arrested in Jeddah. No further news is available for the reasons for his detention.

He was taken on the 10th of Dec… the Human Rights Day!

How ironic?

I wanna blog but I have the feeling that someone from my sweet, sweet familia is reading what I write!

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I’m sick of them. I’m sick of their silly discussions. I’m sick of their ignorant comments. I’m sick of them!

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My 3 and 3/4 years old nephew had a lil argument with my toothbrush so it disappeared! he denies this accusation. I want a new toothbrush but I can’t buy one myself, I have to ask someone to buy me the god damn toothbrush, I’ve been asking for 2 days and still didn’t get it! I’m having some kinda insomnia cuz I dread sleeping without brushing my teeth!

Doomed is this country!

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yeah I’m crazy when it comes to music, it’s the only thing that separates me from this insanity so… SUE ME!!!

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Is it cold in here, or is it just me? Could it be that God has finally forgiven “the Kingdom of Humanity” for its lack of humanity?! Could it be that we will soon see the rain ?! I wonder!

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الرجال هنا أشبه بحلاقين تجري شفار ألسنتهم على جلود النساء من غير اكتراث، ولو جرى الدم لا يكلف الواحد منهم إزالته بكلمة اعتذار رقيقة

المرأة أشبه بمنشفة بالية يدسونها في المطابخ، أو في غرفة مغلقة حيث يدلقون عليها الدنس بسرية تامة

-عبده خال

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“I’ll spend my years alone
If that’s how it must be
I’ll dream the dreams that no one can believe

I know I don’t deserve what it is I’m asking for
But I’ll keep asking you forever more
I’ll keep hoping even though my tears aren’t pure
Yes, I’ll keep hoping even thought my tears aren’t pure”

-one great, great man (ok he’s K.Salama!)

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HA!

A friend of mine sent me this as a belated birthday gift! LOL plz notice how he took pictures as he unpacked the package LOOOL I have a baaaaad influence on people hehe.

I was in dilemma that day, I spent the day thinking what song should I hear first? Should I turn on the AC? Should I turn off the light? Should I listen to them on the ipod or on the laptop? LOL

Finally I made up my mind and listened to ‘I Miss You’ and… it tasted like chocolate!!!!!!!!
Then I listened to ‘ My Tears Ain’t Pure’ and I felt like I was wearing boots!!!!!!!!
Then My heart couldn’t take all that beauty LOL so I opted to save the rest for the next day when I would be less hyper! when H woke up I said to her “my dear sis, I just heard what heaven sounds like”

eh! That’s it for now, eid mubarak everyone, enjoy your lives plz!

“King Abdullah of Saudi Arabia pardoned a teenage girl sentenced to six months in jail and 200 lashes after being gang raped in a decision swiftly welcomed by Washington on Monday.”

He pardoned her !!!! Okaayyyy! well since not ALL of us (girls in Saudi) have access to the media or to some cool lawyer to get us this royal pardon, here is my advise to myself and to my dear Saudi female friends (my silent readers lol) :

1- don’t get raped!

2- dont get raped!

3- dont get raped!

4- try your best NOT to get raped!

5- if (GOD FORBID) you get raped DON’T GO TO THE POLICE… DON’T!

6- don’t tell anyone!

ok that’s it!

In the end I have to say I’m so glad she is free now and I pray she can move on with her life… and I love you… Qatif Girl!

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Advise me not, my blamer, for
Calamities have opened my heart and
Tears have cleanses my eyes, and
Errors have taught me the language
Of the hearts.

Talk not of banishment, for conscience
Is my judge and he will justify me
And protect me if I am innocent, and
Will deny me of life if I am a criminal.
- Gibran Khalil

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Thumbs up plz!

Hahaha I love me!

I’ve got the best fwnds : )

“Gibbons is being held at a secret location after thousands of people demonstrated in Khartoum after Friday prayers against what they view is a lenient sentence, with some calling for her death.

Some protesters brandished ceremonial swords and said she should be put to death.”

It’s a teddy bear people… A TEDDY… BEAR! Kids love teddy bears, they LOVE them… they DO! The kids (not her) called the teddy bear Muhammad because they LOVE the teddy bear… they LOVE it!

Poor woman, I really feel for her. I bet she’s now thinking “what a stupid country and what a stupid thing to come and teach here” and if she’s not thinking this way… well SHE SHOULD!

It amazes me how Muslims always compete to look the most barbaric, it also amazes me that if you take a closer look at those who are the most excited about “defending the prophet” you’ll see the real them… individuals trying to cover up for their lack of self-esteem!

Back when those ridiculous cartoons were all over the news my big sister(the terrorist one) received a txt message and she had this weird face on so I asked her what was it? and then I read the most disgusting thing ever, ever!
“Allah Akbar, the guy who drew the cartoons was found burnt to death next to his house. Pass this on“. I felt sick, I felt even more sick when I knew who sent that message, he was my big br… the guy who… well lets just say he never deprived himself from anything he can crave!

-You don’t like this?
-Duh. Its stupid!
-You don’t want him killed?
-No
-The prophet (peace be upon him ) said: “None of you believes until he loves me more than he loves himself.”
-Here we go again, you misunderstood this hadeeth, you teach Islamic Studies you should know about this, do you think by killing this guy your love for the prophet (peace be upon him) has increased? Plz use your mind…
-(interrupting) even your faith is corrupted!
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I’m really sick of this, I’m thinking about hijacking a helicopter and print this (read it, its worth it) and throw it everywhere, just like they do when they try to control forest fires!

Update: Omar al-Bashir, the Sudanese president, has pardoned a British teacher jailed for 15 days for insulting religion, according to a presidential adviser.

two points:
1- He “pardoned” her! as in you did something wrong but I forgive you!!
2- sooooo sword man… I don’t see you waving your sword in front of al-Bashir’s office… or did your outrage disappeared the minute al-Bashir got involved in this?!!!!

so here’s the equatio:

a sweet British teacher + a sweet teddy bear= unexplainable outrage
a sweet British teacher + a sweet teddy bear+Arab president’s pardon=…………..do you hear anything? ….exactly

When I was in my sixth grade I had a lesson about how we should love our parents and one of the reasons was:

“because they are the reason (after God) why we exist”

and I thought to myself “hmmm… should I really be thankful for that?”